It’s pretty easy to see what lies behind the problem of middle-aged sexlessness — communication. But communication problems are easy to talk about and difficult to solve.
Dr. Kunio Kitamura was born in 1951. He graduated from Jichi Medical School and through his 30 years of research, is now the "voice of Japanese sexuality." Among his many books are "Shiawase no Sex (Happy Sex)," "Piru (The Pill)" and "Karada no Hon (The Body Book)."
Ending the undignified state of sexlessness isn’t simply a matter of saying, "Right, let’s go at it then," and racing off to the nearest bed. And even if you complain that masturbation is pretty ridiculous as it fails to give you somebody else’s warm touch, it will never bring your spouse to your bed. It’s pretty easy to see what lies behind the problem of middle-aged sexlessness — communication. But communication problems are easy to talk about and difficult to solve. So that’s where British zoologist Desmond Morris’s 12 steps to ending sexlessness. There’s no need to hurry. All you need to do is follow the 12 simple steps that lead to a final goal of having sex.
The first step is From the Eyes to the Body. Gaze at your partner until you start thinking, "Gee, that’s a bit of all right." The second step is From the Eyes to the Eyes. Wait until your eyes meet, then stare at each other. If you feel uncomfortable, avert your eyes. Stage three is From Voice to Voice. Tell your partner about a great new restaurant and invite them to dine with you there. If they agree, you move on to stage four and touching. The next stages are From Hands to Hands, From Arms to Shoulders and From Shoulders to Waists. As the touching becomes more intimate, the amount of skin contact being made broadens. By stage seven — From Mouth to Mouth — you’ve moved on to kissing. Then, there’s From Hand to Head, From Hand to Body, From Mouth to Breasts and From Hands to Genitals. Needless to say, the 12thand final stage is From Genitals to Genitals.
Some readers may see this process and think, "I don’t have to go through all that rigmarole, do I?" or "Do I really need to be so touchy?" You shouldn’t mention these things. Instead, why not take the opportunity to remember how you met your partner.
Shame, surprise, awakening, laughing and cry — you once went through a whole lot of different emotions with nobody but your partner. The partner may not be somebody like (South Korean heartthrob actor) Bae Young-joon, but they are your partner, so why not go back to the beginning and try over again? I’m sure you’ll find that if you do, you’ll be in for a wonderful 2007.
Via Mainichi
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